I actually have 99% of these already written out, so I’m going to do the last 10 in 2 posts.
Day 20: Talk about something within kink/BDSM that you’re curious about and/or don’t understand.
If I’ve come across something within kink/BDSM that I don’t understand, or want more information on, I’ve just googled it, so I can’t think of anything specific right now that I’ve heard about but don’t understand to some degree. Something I am curious about though, is a 24/7 TPE D/s relationship. I’m not sure how or if I’ll ever get the opportunity to fully experience it but I can’t deny that I wonder how I’d be in that type of relationship. I never thought I’d seek out someone taking full control of me, I’ve always been too damned independent. But I’m also learning that if something scares me, but I can’t look away or stop thinking about it, it’s typically been something I’ve really enjoyed once trying it. It’s a major reason that an evening/day/weekend/some set period of time, is near the top of my “want to try” list.
Day 21: Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
I haven’t read too many BDSM/kink related books yet either fiction or non-fiction. I’ve devoured websites more often than books, it seems.
Fiction wise I love the Sleeping Beauty series by A.N. Roquelaure (Anne Rice), particularly book 3: Beauty’s Release. I still have to read book, but I have it on pre-order and will get it later this month. I’m currently reading The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou…I haven’t gotten very far yet though.
Non-fiction wise, I’ve enjoyed The Bottoming Book by Janet W. Easton and Dossie Easton.
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, BDSM or vanilla.
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
My interests have grown and deepened, both in activities I want to try, and relationship wise. I started off trying a few kinky toys being used on me rather lightly, seeing how I liked them and reacted. I’ve since discovered I have a masochistic streak and love having pain inflicted on me. Submissive wise, I was hesitant thinking I’d be interested beyond just in the bedroom, but I’ve found it to be natural and inherent when in the presence of my Dom/poly hubby and my boyfriend.
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
I’ve never gone looking for a kink partner, but they’d have to have the same core principles that I look for in a partner in general: kind, caring, smart, funny, someone who can keep up with my attitude (once they get to know me & I lower my walls), and whom I can trust fully.
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
With my partners, I’m as open as possible. If they ask me a question, I answer to the best of my ability. I expect the same from them. In general though, it’s not something I advertise.