Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Maybe it’s because I haven’t been into kink/BDSM for that long, but I don’t have many pet peeves that automatically come to mind. I’ve been more focused on figuring myself out, and where I fit within it all to really worry about what others may think. Here are the couple I did think of:Continue reading →
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
The main thing for me is that my husband isn’t drawn to the same kink that I am, though he is supportive in me finding it elsewhere. It’s just very difficult and can be disheartening at times as he withdraws when kink or BDSM is mentioned. When I have a need, I basically keep it out of our relationship and just have to be patient. Also, my D/s is over a longer distance. It isn’t easy, especially when I find submitting in person so much more fulfilling. Trying to figure out what works best when not together is ongoing.Continue reading →
A while back an ex-poly-partner posted a very good piece that she’d had permission to publish by its original author. It’s all about the concept of paying rent within a relationship – “Always pay your rent”
It’s really good, hence I refer to it again and start thinking about the subject once again.
Following the break up I later wrote a post on Rent control – “Rent Control” It’s all about how the rent can increase as a relationship develops and sometimes however the level required can become prohibitive. I wish to make it completely clear that this is not meant as an attack, purely an observation. We all decide what we want, need and desire, we are all responsible for placing a value upon the our relationships and love.
Then it occurred to me that I have never really thought about how you set and agree what the rent level…
Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
I have a few main ones right now. In no particular order:
Consensual non-consent. I’ve always liked the thought of being overpowered, and whenever I’ve been lightly pushed around or made to do something, I’ve LOVED it!
Kitten play. I want to wear my ears and tail, and be cat like. Stroked and scratched, be attached to a leash, maybe nap in a cage.
To relinquish all power for a set period of time, a TPE weekend is my thinking. Included in this would be us going out, maybe for dinner. Have him pick out what I’ll wear, eat, that kind of thing. Plus whatever he wants privately 😉
Decorative needle play has me intrigued. This one would probably have to be topped by someone outside of my relationships, but my Sir knows of people who do this within his community.
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
I’ve heard some funny stories from friends of mine, but haven’t had many happen to myself. One thing that happened wasn’t during a scene, but did inhibit a scene from happening. Gun, Bob, Lexxi, and myself all went to the swingers club by my house and Bob had planned to strap me to the St Andrew’s cross they have there. It was the fall, and Bob’s allergies were particularly bad right then. Lexxi mixed a couple of drinks for the guys, and made the first ones rather strong. Since he had taken some allergy meds before leaving, Bob was soon dozing on one of the couches in the main room among the loud music and bad porn that was playing. When we went to the back of the club to play pool, he came with us and continued dozing in a chair back there. One of the other ladies who was there for the night came over and said she’d debated sitting on his lap and smushing her boobs in his face. We all told her to go for it as he loves boobs lol.Continue reading →