What do words mean to you? How seriously do you take words when you see or hear them? Do you ever say anything that you don’t mean, or you wouldn’t follow through on?
Since I am so active on social media (Facebook and Twitter in particular), plus being in a long distance relationship, words are of some prominence in my life.
I try never to say or type anything that I feel is untrue, stretching things, or that I wouldn’t follow through with. It’s one major reason that I won’t sext with someone I don’t know. I like to imagine actually doing that with the person I’m texting with, and have been burned a couple of times in the past where it seemed like we had a connection through chatting, but didn’t have one once we met in person. Likewise, I won’t just throw about descriptors like “beautiful”, “gorgeous”, “handsome”, “sexy”, that sort of thing, unless I really mean it.
If someone on Twitter calls me sexy and they’ve never actually met me, I take it with a grain of salt since I am somewhat careful in what I post there as a representation of myself. I highlight what I like and hide what I don’t like. When someone calls me that and they know me in real life, it means more. But it makes me wonder when I’m called gorgeous (for example), but then see the same person use it to multiple people. Was it just a cloned reply, or was it really meant?
There really has only been one time that I can recall where I’ve been called gorgeous, and truly felt it. It was a spontaneous reaction, and it wasn’t said to try to get into my pants, or to just make me feel good. If it was, the guy is a fantastic actor, lol.
True, words aren’t the only things that are needed. I’ll never forget trying on a specific dress and seeing my husbands eyes practically bug out of his head. That reaction will be ingrained in me forever.
In my opinion words can be very important, especially when you can’t see actions and reactions. They should be chosen carefully when possible.